Online Dating – How to Start Your Own Online Dating Business

When starting your own online dating business you should be good at match making. There are thousands of single people out there that use dating sites to get to know people because it is easier then going out and seeking for someone; because when you go online, you can pick and choose the particular criteria that you are looking for. It is a good idea to do your research on other dating sites to get a general idea about how to set up and design your own dating business.

The first thing you will need when you are starting your own online dating business is a good dating service model. This way you will be able to gather the good people and weed out the lunatics from the psycho’s. This allows your clients to pick and choose there soul mate from your site; that way your client feels safe using your site and will tell there friends about it.

Another thing that you will need to start you own online dating business successfully is a good web designer and a good web hosting service. What that does if you get over a couple hundred visitors it allows you to accommodate the traffic and database of the participants. Its might be a good idea for to look in to being your own web host and managing you own server; that way you know everything that goes on in your business.

When starting your own online dating business you want to be very successful and popular. Well the best way for you to be successful is marking and advertising which; that will take a large budget. When you advertise you want your online dating service to be different from all the other dating services; in order to do that you need to allow your self a very large advertising budget so that your online dating service will stand out.

Business cards are a smart idea to get your own online dating business up and running; you can take the advertising of your dating service to a new level of success. With business cards you can reach out to more potential clients; that way if they like you’re dating service they can past the business card on to a friend so they can check out your business. Another great way to advertise your own online dating business is to advertise on internet search engines; it will allow you to have more hits on your site.

So if you have the knowledge, money, and, determination then you can start your own online dating business. All that it takes to be successful at your own online dating business is the knowledge of the software and the business you wish to start. You will need the money for the advertising, software, and design to make it one of a kind; so that you will be very successful. You will need the determination to make your dream of your own online dating business to be the best.

Online Dating is a Great Idea For Beginning Your Own Business

In order to be successful in your own business of online dating you should be a good matchmaker. There are multitudes of single individuals who use online dating sites in order to meet and get to know others. Today it is much easier to go online to search for a companion than it is to physically go out and try to find one. The reason for this is that you have the opportunity to choose from the characteristics that you find desirable in a companion. Before starting your business, you should take the time to investigate other online dating site to learn more about them.

Before you begin, you will need to find the ideal model for your business that has the capability to offer the best service to those who seek online dating. By doing so, you will be able to gather in the good individuals while filtering out any foolish undesirables. This will help your clients to feel secure in using your online dating site to find their future companions. It also encourages your clients to recommend your site to their friends and associates.

You will also require the services of a good website designer and a good online hosting company in order to launch a productive and successful online dating service. Having these in place can aid you in maintaining your data as well as the relative amount of traffic you will attract by multitude of new clients. On the other hand, you may consider becoming your own host and managing your own server to gain the knowledge of all that occurs in your business.

When you begin your own online dating business, you desire to be well accepted and very successful. In order to be successful you will need to consider the factors of good quality content and publicity costs to your budget. When considering the publicity for your site, you want to be impressive and distinctive from all the others. Keep in mind that to do this efficiently that you will have to invest a considerable budget so that you can reach as many individuals as possible.

One good idea is making use of professional visiting cards for your online dating business. You can use these to increase the publicity of your dating service to a higher level of success. You can contact more prospective clients while using professional visiting cards. This will impress them and when they admire your services, they can pass them on to their friends and associates, thereby increasing your business and profits. You should also consider listing your online dating business on the various internet search engines. This will enable you to increase your website traffic significantly.

Therefore, when you have the knowledge, determination and the finances to begin your own business you help to secure your success. The essential keys required to succeed in your own online dating business are the desire to succeed and the knowledge of the software that you will use. You can be successful by planning a budget for publicity and software purposes for this particular type of online exchange and a strong desire and determination to create a successful online dating business.

The Psychology of Online Dating: She Wants and He is

In the first article in this series (The Psychologists Viewpoint) I outlined how psychologists have investigated attraction and dating preferences by looking at the contents of personal advertisement and online dating profiles.

The second article (He Wants and She is) described the sort of things men say they are looking for in a partner. In this article we turns things on their head and consider what women have said they want in a partner as well as how men describe themselves and whether this matches women’s desires.

Before we begin, please spend a few moments and think of about four general things that you think women are typically looking for in a partner … now let’s see what scientific research has revealed.

What does the research say?

When looking at sex differences in what’s sought from a partner, two factors stand head and shoulders above the rest and are reported so often in the research literature that it would be remarkable if any researcher failed to find these results. In the previous article we discussed the fact that men are far more interested in a partner’s attractiveness than women are. The thing that women look for but men don’t is wealth.

In fact it is only a small minority of women who directly say they are looking for someone rich and we need to take a slightly broader view of what constitutes wealth or at least financial stability. Some of the phrases encountered do refer directly to wealth (e.g. ‘rich’ and ‘financially secure’) but in many cases women will say they are looking for a partner who has specific assets (e.g. ‘own house’) or employment (e.g. ‘business type’, ‘professional’ or even just ‘working’). Alternatively, the thing mentioned might be a personal attribute that, while it could be viewed as sought for its own sake, implies an aptitude or capacity to earn now or in the future (e.g. ‘ambitious’, ‘intelligent’ or ‘college educated’).

Taking money, assets, employment and aptitudes separately, in each case women are more likely to say they are looking for a partner with these characteristics than men are. When taken as an overall category of features implying wealth or the capacity to earn, research has consistently shown women are more interested in a partner having these features than men. For example, in 2003 I presented some results to colleagues based on my collection of nearly 5000 advertisements. Within this set of data, women were six times more likely than men to mention one of the above as a desirable characteristic in a partner.

Men seem to be fully aware of what women are looking for as they are consistently more likely than women to mention that they are financially secure, well educated, or have personal qualities that might be expected to lead to wealth or security. Often this is done directly through a bald mention of personal assets such as ‘own house and car’ (a phrase used so frequently it is often abbreviated to ‘OHAC’) or men may be more subtle and include something in their description that implies wealth such as ‘hobbies include good restaurants, opera, sailing and regular holidays overseas.’

Male interest in attractiveness and female interest in wealth are both pretty clear cut. You will recall the other things men wanted in a partner were also physical features of one kind or another. Women’s desires, however, are not as simple as this. Apart from wealth (or at least financial stability/promise) there are three other factors that women are just as interested in and just as likely to mention when seeking a partner.

The first of these is a difficult concept to pin down as different researchers view it in different ways depending on how phrases are grouped together. For example, if we consider phrases such as ‘expressive’, ‘sensitive’ and ‘open’ as referring to something different to phrases such as ‘warm’, ‘loving’ and ‘romantic’ then both our ‘expressiveness’ and our ‘warmth’ categories will have relatively smaller numbers of adverts than a general category containing all these phrases. Where researchers do group these together and look for what might be called positive emotional characteristics as a single category, then women are just as interested in finding a partner like this as they are in a partner’s wealth and resources. Men are also pretty interested in finding someone who they describe using phrases of this type but not as interested as women are. However men are certainly aware of women’s desires in this area as they are considerably more likely than women to describe themselves as having these female-valued emotional characteristics.

Another characteristic that men often lay claim to, and women often seek, is identified by phrases such as ‘honest’, ‘genuine’, ‘faithful’ and ‘committed’. If we take these phrases as indicating the desire for a partner who is open to having an ongoing relationship and who is not going to mess you around, then this is something women are also as interested in as wealth and emotionality.

The last female-valued attribute I want to mention is physical and is the only physical attribute that women seek more often than men do. It is height.

Whether a specific height is mentioned or whether it is simply the use of the adjective ‘taller’ when describing a partner, women are far more interested in a man’s height than men are in a woman’s, and they almost invariably want men who are tall, or at least taller than they are themselves. This result has been found in numerous studies of personal advertisement and was borne out again recently in a novel study of speed dating events. Researchers at the University of Essex looked at the characteristics of men who were more or less successful at getting invitations to follow-up dates at speed dating events. They found the men who were most successful at any particular event were usually among the tallest present.

Men seem to be aware of this female preference as they are far more likely to mention their height than women. This may be an assertion that they are ‘tall’ or they may give an actual height. However in my sample of personal advertisements, the average male height (where it is mentioned) is 5 feet 10 inches. This is significantly taller than the average adult male height in the UK population so either these men were inflating their heights or only the taller men mentioned it.

In summary, based on extensive research looking at what women say they want in a partner, the four main characteristics that emerge are wealth (or at least financial security), positive emotional characteristics (such a warmth, openness and sensitivity), someone who is honest and open to forming an ongoing relationship, and height.

How can we use this?

In the previous article I used this subheading as an opportunity to advise women on how they can present themselves to attract initial male attention. In this article I am not going to do this as I think the research above speaks for itself, and I want to explore briefly the moral dilemma I had about writing these articles, particularly this one. It is to do with deception.

There is no doubt that deception is widely used when seeking a date. From a psychological perspective, women’s use of makeup, hair dye and body shaping knickers are actually forms of deception that are specifically targeted at the physical features that men are interested in. Now I am not asserting a moral position here as these forms of deception are widespread and socially acceptable, not to mention (in the case of makeup) visually detectable. I more want to make the point that although they may not usually be viewed this way, they are in fact methods used by women to deceive men about their male-valued characteristics.

Given the above, we should also expect men will use deception to make themselves more attractive to women. Furthermore, deception is most likely to involve exactly the things that women seek in a partner. Unfortunately these are intangibles such as personality characteristics that cannot be immediately observed, leaving men much greater scope to lie.

If you are a man who is genuinely sensitive, financially stable, and looking for a real relationship then please do mention this in your personal advertisement as you will probably get a better response, but also bear in mind that many others will be (perhaps falsely) emphasising these features so don’t expect women to take any such claims at face value. Women looking for someone like this will and indeed should take the time to get to know someone. It is well known that women prefer to develop relationships slowly and given what I have said above, this is not only understandable but could also be viewed as another way to test a man’s character. If he really is sensitive and committed then a slow start to a relationship should not be a problem.

The next article takes some of the results mentioned in this and the previous article and uses these to explore theories of attraction. This may sound a bit dry but the main aim of the article is to introduce you to a current psychological theory of attraction that you can use to assess your own value in the ‘mating market’.